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mellowcandle
mellowcandle
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Ugh, I barely even look at the computer these days except for house listings and bill paying.

Let's see.

We're officially free of the state of Alabama. The sale of our house went through--not without some stress and sleepless nights and outlays of cash on our part, which, hi, you're buying it, why are we paying you--and while we got a little less than we'd hoped, we knew it was better to take the offer and get out rather than continue to pay the mortgage and utilities waiting for something better.

Since we wanted to be present at the closing, we used that as an excuse to make a trip up to Indiana to see my family and all the babies.



Yes, we got to see all four babies. It's so weird that my sister and my godparents' daughter are ten years apart in age, but their twins are only a month apart. They had their first little "playdate" at my parents' house when we all got together for dinner and baby-seeing.

We also got to hang out with the OG niece and nephew, who are as tall as I am now, which, how did that happen.

And we told everyone of our adventures down here in the sunshine state and why we made the choice we did, and everyone seemed happy for us and a little jealous.

But when we talked about what we were looking for in a house, and D said he wanted a pool, every time my mom would go, "Oh, you don't want a pool. They're a lot of money and a lot of work." I finally said, "So are kids, but we'd rather have a pool." For real, does anyone ever reply to "We're thinking of having kids" with "Oh, you don't want kids. They're a lot of money and a lot of work."

Mom also asked, "Is is weird coming back here and thinking 'I used to live here'?" I said, um, no? I went away to college when I was 18, moved in with D when I was 22, that hasn't been my house in almost 20 years. I lived in our Birmingham house longer than I lived in my parents' house.

So houses. We've been looking and D's got his heart set on one in this area, but.... it's old, and a lot of things would need replacing. It's also a two-story, which I've tried to tell him I do. not. want. because I grew up in a two-story, and I know that means hauling laundry and the vacuum up and down and up and down for the rest of my life. It also has a tiny "master" bathroom, and after 17 years of a tiny master bathroom, I thought we agreed we didn't want that situation again. But looking at it, it's possible that we could do some renovations to turn the master, its bathroom, and an adjoining bedroom into a big master suite, which our realtor said was a good idea and would actually add value to that older house. But do I really want to do that kind of work?

When we could just build new and get what we want. But the neighborhood I'm looking at is out of town a bit. Bigger lot, new construction, but now you're far away from everything. We're going to meet with those people this weekend to get an idea of floorplans, though building would take about five months, and D's afraid of not making a decision soon enough, losing out on the one he likes, plus going into another down market, as it's due for a correction, and interest rates will only go up.

We're also meeting with a mortgage guy next week. We called our previous mortgage company about getting preapproved, and they acted like it would be next to impossible. Yeah, our stellar 800+ credit rating and 17 years of mortgage history don't mean anything. It's all about debt-to-income ratio. But... we don't have any debt! Our cars are paid for, our house was sold and paid off, all we have is a few hundred on our AMEX which we pay off on time every month. "Sorry, you don't have sustainable income" because we live off D's trust fund. So whatever. We've talked to a local guy as a contact through our realtor who sounds like he's going to go through all our stuff from the past three years and give us a much better chance.

Geez, there's more stuff too, like D and his mom are still in a fight, and my parents called this morning to say they want to come visit in a couple weeks, and all that, but I have to go make dinner. D tried to figure out what I was typing so much because I just don't turn on the computer unless we're downloading anime.

I'll try to do better.

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Comments
peacewish From: peacewish Date: June 5th, 2015 01:55 am (UTC) (Link)
You may not want to hear this, but I vote for the central older home! We too had to renovate the space into a workable master suite, and yes I wept tears of frustration over the course of the project, but ever since it's been a dream. We love being able to walk to so many things, and taking walks in a neighborhood full of beautiful old homes is so much more a pleasure than a new development. I figure it's a pleasure reserved for us that don't have to worry about raising children in the proper school zone or having space for all their toys.

It's your life, of course, and you know what's most important to you. But those are my two cents.
mellowcandle From: mellowcandle Date: June 5th, 2015 09:37 pm (UTC) (Link)
I appreciate any cents, and I know it's a good location, but an older house means hidden problems to me, not just reno, but old a/c, old plumbing, and on and on. And the stairs! I don't want stairs. I don't want to do laundry in the garage. We'd still have to drive places (we're getting spoiled in this apartment with being able to walk to the nearest shopping center) but it'd be five minutes compared to 15+ out in the burbs. D acts like those people on Love it or List It. "A ten minute commute? That's so faaaaaaar!" He complains when we drive ten minutes to Target. "Why would anyone live way out here?"

I'm trying to keep an open mind and am starting to think I'm going to lose this one. We'll see.
cal_reflector From: cal_reflector Date: June 6th, 2015 05:56 pm (UTC) (Link)
"Oh, you don't want kids. They're a lot of money and a lot of work."

This should be your submission to any caption contest. Try the Economist's; very prestigious. And on point, since Big Important People across the world are losing sleep over babies these days.

I can see next week's cover already: "Kids: Lots of money and lots of work." Serious business.

happy for us and a little jealous

You showed them pictures of manatee babies?

College roommate who just started his career recently bought a home (He's a genius who got full-ride at Cal's elite Engineering department, so I accept his methods without qualification). His priorities were: Size, then location. Since he's single, the fact that it was a bad school district did not figure into the equation. The house needed work though; paint, floor, etc. His rationale was that fixing a house in less ideal condition worked out financially than buying a newer one; property taxes, whatnot.

mellowcandle From: mellowcandle Date: June 7th, 2015 09:54 pm (UTC) (Link)
There's nothing cuter than manatee babies.

The good thing about a first house is you really learn what you're looking for when it comes to your second house. We were so desperate to get out of our little craphole apartment all those years ago that we were just like, "Yay, an actual house!" Now we know what we will and will not tolerate.
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